Is there something you feel most angry about? If you could change something what would it be? What do you think about when you feel upset? Here are some options if you can’t think of what to ask: It is important to try to find out details about what the child is upset about. Take time to find out thoughts and reasons for their distress Say: “I’m so sorry you feel so bad”, “I wish you felt better”, “I’m really sorry you are hurting so much” or something similar.Ģ. Telling children off for talking about how bad they feel can sometimes make them feel more ashamed, and more unhappy. Don’t lecture them about all the good things in their lives. Don’t tell them off or get cross at them – empathise instead.ĭon’t get mad, don’t lecture them about why they should not be sad. Of course some children who say “I wish I was dead” ARE depressed, or DO have immediate needs for support, but the words alone don’t usually suggest this.Ģ. It doesn’t necessarily mean they are hiding something from you, that they are sad “deep down” nor does it necessarily mean they need help. It does not necessarily mean your child is depressed (they may be, but it’s not a definitive sign) nor does it doesn’t mean there is something else wrong with them.
Many children say something like this at some point, it is not uncommon. Here are some steps you can take if you have heard your child use sentences such as these. As parents, our dearest wish often is for our children to have a happy, meaningful life – and hearing these words is often a shocking blow. It’s very distressing for parents to hear their children say these things. “If I have to do this/if this happens I will kill myself” Every week we see children, aged from 5 or 6 onwards who say something like this:
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